Janet Elizabeth Milley, 51, trusted friend to many, beloved wife, loyal Canadian and attorney, died with grace and courage April 28, 2010, in Sandy Point after battling cancer for 20 months.

Always a proud Newfoundlander, after undergraduate work in Ontario, Janet spent seven years doing psychiatric research at the Joslin Diabetes Center in Boston before enrolling at Boston College Law School; she graduated cum laude in 1994. She practiced law briefly in Portland before joining TD Bank in July 1998 as vice president in the wealth management division. She thoroughly enjoyed working with her colleagues and her many grateful clients.

Janet was born Aug. 22, 1958, in St. John’s, Newfoundland, Canada. She attended high school there and went to Memorial University before graduating from the University of Guelph in Ontario in 1981 with a degree in child development. She then attended Tufts University in Boston and earned her master’s degree in child development in 1984.

Janet joined TD Bank in its Bangor office and made a home for herself in Maine. Initially she was a trust adviser, forming very strong relationships with her clients. For the past several years she served as the will and estate planner for the expanded Trust Group. During this period Janet chaired the company’s administrative committee and was a much-admired resource, due to her fiduciary knowledge and expertise and, even more importantly, for her humor and can-do attitude that uplifted everyone with whom she worked.

Her interest in child welfare and development made her an active participant in the legal field. While working at TD Bank, she was a volunteer guardian ad litum, working for the best interests of children. A believer in legal access for all, in 1998 Janet joined the board of directors of Pine Tree Legal Assistance, a statewide nonprofit that provides free legal assistance to low-income Mainers.

She was board president 2005-2007, stepping down only in March due to her illness. As a result of her leadership, the board was inspired to become more vibrant and responsive. She personally led the effort to develop a strategic plan that will provide a blueprint for the foreseeable future and inspired the creation of the Janet Milley Award for Board Service that will be awarded annually for leadership

Canadians are either hockey players or curlers. Janet was a superb curler and a supporter of the sport at Broomstones Curling Club in Wayland, Mass., during her years in Boston and, since moving to Maine, at the Belfast Curling Club, where she met her husband, Douglas. She was as competitive as a curler as she was uncompetitive as a golfer, only recording her pars and the extremely occasional birdie. She often shot 3 for nine holes.

A cyclist, runner, camper, hiker and golfer before she met Douglas, she then added kayaking, gardening and home renovations to her list of satisfactions. She primed and two-coated their home in Sandy Point.

Discouraged by the violin, Janet explored her Scottish heritage by taking up the bagpipes —- an instrument that better responded to her strengths of discipline and perseverance. She bought and maintained, so she could exclusively run, her beloved John Deere riding lawnmower and keep “her” grounds up to her standards, and her standards in the most important areas of life were high. Her hard work ethic was a constant source of pride and satisfaction.

She was a mentor and example to many on how to work collegially, honestly and with a wonderful sense of humor. She was the most authentic, real person many of her friends and family have ever met. Valuing the clarity of her thinking, many of Janet’s friends turned to her for counsel in their actions, editing in their writing and advice in their relationships. She always knew where the high road was, with its clear view and fresh air.

Janet leaves behind her beloved husband, Douglas M. Coffin, of Sandy Point; her father, Fred Milley of St. John’s, Newfoundland; her old dog, Emma; three brothers, Peter Milley and his wife, Chris Hornberger, of Halifax, Nova Scotia; Doug Milley, his wife, Sharon, and their son, Gordon, of Paradise, Newfoundland; and Ian Milley and his wife, Darlene Kinghorn, of Halifax; her dear mother- in-law, Ruth Coffin; two stepdaughters, Harpswell and Sigrid; and her special friends, Margaret and Nancy.

Janet was predeceased by her mother, Margaret (Gordon) Milley, of St John’s in 2002; and her father-in-law, Judge Frank M. Coffin, in 2009.

Janet would like to acknowledge the special care of Dr. Patricia Stogsdill; Dr. Matthew Dugan, Julie Baither, FNP, and the rest of the wonderful, caring staff at the Maine Center for Cancer Medicine; and the effective attentions of Hospice of Waldo County. She greatly appreciated the loyalty and support TD Bank showed her over the months of her illness.

There will be a memorial service for Janet at the Congregational Church of Sandy Point on Route 1 in Stockton Springs at 11a.m. Saturday, May 15, reception to follow. A second service will be held in St. John’s, Newfoundland.

In lieu of flowers, please make a donation to your local animal shelter or cancer-care facility.